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Love & Relationships

She is blood. He is tissue. Together they have the God-magic of creation.

~ Joe Wolfe
  1. When starting a new relationship, it’s good to know what your must-haves (dealbreakers) are. For most people, these include more than just looks, such as feeling a strong sexual connection, genuinely respecting each other’s interests, finding each other mentally stimulating, and helping each other become better people. The connection that you build should be based on mutual respect, shared interests, and personal growth.
  2. If your partner rolls their eyes or seems disinterested or bored when you explain what you are interested in and passionate about, that is a signal that you will have some problems down the road.
  3. Be a good listener. Look for the meaning behind what someone is saying. You can gauge whether you are a good listener if the other person feels heard.
  4. No matter how sad or mad you are, never go to bed in the middle of an argument with your partner. Stay up all night if you have to. Forgiveness is freedom…and the key to a good night’s sleep.
  5. If you go to the store or stop at a gas station, get a little treat for your partner for no particular reason.
  6. Your social media feed is not the place to proclaim your love and devotion to someone. You are only feeding your own egos and revealing your insecurity with your relationship to the rest of the world.
  7. Sex is a choice.
  8. Relationships take work. Never stop doing the things you did to win over your lover in the beginning.
  9. Give your lover a long hug at least once a day. Mornings are best.
  10. If you are not working, never stay in bed when your partner gets up for work (even if they tell you to). Make them coffee and stand at the door and wave when they leave for the day. This will have a tremendous, positive impact on both of your days.
  11. If you’re on a date, keep your phone put away and in silent mode.
  12. Empower your partner and be of service to them. Help them to go places where they may not have been able to go by themselves.
  13. You can gauge how much you love someone by how important their happiness is to you. If you are happier without them and/or they are happier without you, let them go.
  14. Sometimes, YOU are the problem.
  15. Say “I love you” with meaning, focus, and intention…and not out of habit. Remember, actions speak louder than words, and these three particular words have a diminished value when regurgitated out of habit.
  16. Even the slightest touch can be a powerful thing. Every single time you walk by your lover, lightly touch them on the back or shoulder as you pass them by. An inconspicuous pat on the butt is sometimes the best.
  17. Leave little love notes from time to time.
  18. Genuinely see your lover deeply and let them know the particular details that you love about them. Celebrate who they are and let them know the reasons why you love them the way you do.
  19. Never stop having lunch dates or date nights. If you have kids, find someone you trust to watch them for a couple of hours from time to time so that you can spend some worry-free time with your lover. Do not drop your kids off at a place that will have you worrying about them the whole time you are apart. You do not have to go anywhere expensive or extravagant to spend quality time together.
  20. Never ask your partner if you look fat. They will always lie to you.
  21. True intimacy takes the act of lovemaking to astronomical levels.
  22. Never allow your sexual desire or excitement to overpower your decisions or actions. Sexual energy is a real thing and can be incredibly powerful when stored.
  23. Your partner’s goals and dreams should be yours as well. If you are not sure what they are, then you need to work on your communication skills.
  24. Set aside some time for you and your lover to stare into each other’s eyes, particularly during those times when you feel disconnected from them.
  25. Relationships are like plants; if you don’t water them, they wither, but if you water them too much, they drown.
  26. Just because you love someone does not mean you have to be blindly in agreement with everything they believe or do.
  27. Cook and do dishes together.
  28. All your gifts, attention, sacrifices, and proclamations of love mean nothing without trust.
  29. Before you marry her, see what she looks like and how she acts with wet hair. Before you marry him, see how he treats his mom and sister.
  30. Keep the little notes your lover gives you in a special place and write dates on them.
  31. Do not just tell your lover that they are beautiful. Tell them something specific that you love about them and what you think makes them beautiful. Get creative.
  32. Finding love is like searching for a needle in a haystack. Sometimes, you just end up with a bunch of hay.
  33. If you do all of these things, and your partner is no longer responsive to your love, does not care, or is unable (or refuses) to love and care for you in return, then it may be time to consider either talking to some sort of couple’s counselor or think about letting them go. Sometimes, in the end, being married and/or having kids together is the only thing a couple has in common. Know when to walk away.